Charleston Me!

Charleston Lady

I have a client I'll call Julie. She is a beautiful and fit woman that I work with on the phone. She is polite and sweet and extremely intelligent. I enjoy it immensely and she's working with me to get better social skills and they can do better with men.

I think I'm pretty good at it. I grew up with a mother who had 8 brothers. My father had seven brothers and I have 2 brothers of my own. I have a sister too, but when I was younger, I was the girl in the neighborhood that would compete with the guys while playing kickball or cucumber in the front garden. I liked to win. My sister was in crafts and sewing. I took this later, but was never as talented as my sister in domestic matters.

I was to learn the one to be had as female. I was always "a the boys "until college when I realized that I was not treated special at all of the boys. They were rough and hard to me and not afraid to talk to me. I remember once in school I felt I'd had enough. I was a freshman and hang out with the football players. They all like to hang with me, but if It is time to ask the girls for a party came, I was the one hanging at home. I decided to change that in no time.

I disappeared.

I did not go to the cafeteria to just hang out every night. I ate at another location and basically not again for another month. When I finally decided to to make an appearance .. I was a little shy, where I had been. I had lost a few pounds, but do not show up in sweat no more and did not laugh quite so loud as before. Guess what happened? They all asked me out!

Finally I decided to be treated like a queen on that, it must one A QUEEN! It was a lesson I never forgot and it's allowed me to also covered in the economy and my personal life, my whole adult life. I urge be treated well. I leave when I'm not around.

So, my lesson was not like to be one of the boys! The lesson is learning My client is one of the guys!

First off, what are the advantages of having a woman in business who can "yuk it with the guys?" Well, there are times when it will be their chief is his. It is the one bearing bad news, or the one praises or selling them. If she feels good and her boyfriend, then it is not the uncomfortable tension that sometimes happens between men and women in the economy.

Many women do not have the advantage of growing up with brothers or an athlete view Men as a secret. They have not figured out (to the point and exchange information, not stories), how to talk to them ready and they have not learned how to be treated by them. (Confronting them for bad behavior or is it!)

But how can a woman who does not use feminine in this way is to reach the point where she is comfortable with the men?

I read a passage from a great book to my clients today. It is "women who Run with the Wolves "by Clarissa Pinkola Estes.

"Within every woman is a wild and natural creature, a powerful force, with good instincts, passionate creativity and timeless knowledge filled. Her name is Wild Woman, but she is threatened with extinction. Although the gifts of nature Wildish come to us at birth, the company has to "civilize" the attempt plundered us into rigid roles that treasure, and muffled the deep, life-giving messages of our own souls. Than wild Woman, we are domesticated, fearful, uncreative, trapped. "

YES! This is what they needed to hear. I told her that she actually could try, with more male. I asked them to walk a few rodeos, whoop it with a few cowboys, bull riding, take a few sports games and sit with the Rowdy people wear jeans, drink beer, camping get your hands dirty, take pottery lessons, and some loud laughs belly!

She was amazed! No one had ever told her that she could try, with more men, to better get along with men. I assured her that there is no way they would eat turn into a human monster, but that they would only get the "feel" for what its like more comfort, these are wild part of their Nature, they would nourish.

She loved it. So do I. It's something I had never really coached on, but it was definitely give a lesson that I like about women would that be too stuffy, too conservative to oppress, to domesticated or female.

Female lady is a wonderful thing …. but you leave 'male Page, you do something uncomfortable and anxious in the presence of others. While men will appreciate your sophistication at a dinner party, they can avoid You lose during cutting. We have all heard how much business is done on the golf course. That's because people do business if you are comfortable with other to feel.

So ask yourself .. They are comfortable with others in any situation? If not, press themselves in situations that potentially make you uncomfortable. If you are uncomfortable with comfortable, you are on your way to make others comfortable too.

And this is the best feature of a sophisticated lady!

Mary Gardner, The Charisma Coach! is an Executive Communications Consultant and Trainer. She works with, coaches and trains individuals, sales teams, executives, and celebrities. She owned and operated one of the first coaching institutions on the east coast, CCI, in NYC, Philly and NJ. Mary has appeared on ABCÂ’s 20/20 and has self published a book on public speaking. Mary is married to Sway and is mommy to Jeremy 5, and lives in Orlando, FL.

Contact mary at: mary@marygardner.com or Web: www.marygardner.com

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